Thames Valley Police has released a video to go with its #ConsentisEverything campaign which features a traditional British pastime - drinking a cup of tea.

This week, Thames Valley Police and the Thames Valley Sexual Violence Prevention Group launched the campaign, which shines a light on sexual consent and the responsibility to get consent, rather than assume it has been given.

It aims to better educate people about gaining sexual consent and comes as part of ongoing work by the Thames Valley Sexual Violence Prevention Group made up of Oxfordshire Sexual Abuse and Rape Crisis Centre, Rape Crisis (Wycombe, Chiltern and South Buckinghamshire), Oxford University Student Union and Thames Valley Police.

As part of the campaign, the force has released a video about offering someone a cup of tea, which gives clear instructions as to what constitutes as sexual consent.

The video, which is funny at times, goes through all the situations which can be twisted into ‘blurred lines’ territory, all the while keeping with the tea analogy.

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The video starts: “If you’re still struggling with consent just imagine instead of initiating sex you’re making them a cup of tea.

“You say ‘hey, would you like a cup of tea?’ and they go ‘oh my god I would love a cup of tea. Thank you!’ Then you know they want a cup of tea.”

It continues: “If you say ‘hey, would you like a cup of tea?’ and they’re like ‘er you know I’m not really sure…’ then you can make them a cup of tea, or not, but be aware that they might not drink it, and if they don’t drink it then – and this is the important bit – don’t make them drink it.”

The video also touches on if someone has passed out.

It says: “Maybe they were conscious when you asked them if they wanted tea, and they said yes, but in the time it took you to boil that kettle, brew the tea and add the milk they are now unconscious.

You should just put the tea down, make sure the unconscious person is safe, and this is the important part again, don’t make them drink the tea. They said “yes” then, sure, but unconscious people don’t want tea.”

The video concludes with the important message “Whether it is tea or sex, Consent is Everything.”

Detective Chief Inspector Justin Fletcher, from Thames Valley Police, said: “The law is very clear. Sex without consent is rape.

“It is the responsibility of individuals to make sure they have consent throughout sex. True consent can only be given freely by someone with the capacity to make a decision. To have sex with someone who is unable to give consent, or is agreeing under coercion, is to have sex without their consent.

“Awareness of what sexual consent means and how to get it is vital.

“Together we can prevent rape by ensuring everyone knows when they have sexual consent – and when they do not.”

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